Monday, February 18, 2013

ABS - CBN's 1st Kapamilya Zumba for a Cause

more than 700 attendees of all ages in 2 - hour dance grooves
For the first time, the regional network, ABS - CBN, had recently launched the 1st Kapamilya Zumba housing  800 participants in a convention area.

Different attendees from different sectors and ages had swarmed the area for a two - hour dance marathon but what can be more important than staying fit and helping a remote school rebuild classrooms.
the Zumba instructors

the Zumba Runners
So, the  crowd could only be excited and thrilled as their grooving had been captured on big screen. And, we could only be hopeful that we shall see ourselves and friends highlighted on local print or TV medium. How we wish, we could buy flat panel stands  for a more thrilling view of the entire zumba craze.

Congratulations then to all the organizers and to everyone who had made 1st Kapamilya Zumba possible.


Teach Your Kids Social Skills

kids on soccer
the little ones dancing with the adult in Zumba marathon
Raising one kid is quite a challenge especially if the kid is  shy to deal with other kids. So, knowing that the neighbors are quite far home, and there are no other kids to let my kiddo play with, I am left to bring to early - childhood schools, so, he may have the opportunity  to make friends.

Social skills are defined on as "Social skills are those communication, problem-solving, decision making, self-management, and peer relations abilities that allow one to initiate and maintain positive social relationships with others." The excess or lack of social skills can quite impede in school performance and social acceptance.

But, how do we actually teach our kids to make friends? Experts suggest the following:

  1. Teach your kid to smile and to greet one new friend each day. Letting him do this shall build his confidence to initiate and to welcome conversations with new kids. 
  2. Bring your kid any recreational activity. Playing can be a good avenue to let your kid exercise his skills or interests and sharing these with others can boost self - esteem and encourage control.
  3. Enforce social skills training which may include ways to handle frustration/anger, manners / positive dealings with others and positive classroom behaviour. 
  4. Look for schools or groups that provide friendly and re-assuring environment for kids. Once  the kids experience rejection, shame or violent treatment, this would only dampen their social skills.
  5.  Seek support and help from social workers, teachers / parents / guardians who should teach kids how to mingle with others and to provide opportunity for the group to interact positively.
  6. Acquire resources like stories, videos, role plays to show  the importance of making friends and building social skills.
Remember that social skills are not  easily acquired, thus, we have to teach these to our kids positively. When they have acquired these, their social acceptance and school performance gets better.


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Monday, February 11, 2013

Your Emergency Go - Bag

Disaster could happen anytime and anywhere but with the rain, one can prepare for the worst scenario and this would mean preparing ahead of time.

The case of Iligan and Cagayan  de  Oro where typhoon Sending had caused quite a devastation on infrastructure, agriculture and lives of thousands of families was quite an awakening for everyone.

So, build your own emergency pack or bag that would comprise your basic essentials of food, water and supplies like medicines, toiletries, or cigar accessories   that can last for 72 hours or 3 days, enough to supply yourself  and/or the entire family until rescue can come.

The Ready of Fema had a checklist of what to do. The thing is you can still protect yourself and /  or your loved ones from being disaster - afflicted and abandoned. Having the emergency bag can quite save your life. So, if you have none of this special bag, better make one.


Flag Signs that Your Partner Is Cheating

I suddenly had the urge to write about infidelity as a housemate had quite a stressful time when she found out that her fiancé is having an affair when they are set to get married in three months time.

While we wish that we all have the perfect relationship, reality is, there is never a perfect marriage or union but only loyalty, trust, and respect can make a relationship work without the serious glitch.

So, what are to watch for when you feel that your partner is really cheating on you. Let me cite what others say and what personal experience can offer:
  •  Communication dwindling. When gradually communication becomes remote and your partner seems to enjoy his time with friends more than with you. This is also when your partner sets passwords on cps / lappys or take private calls or messaging.  Suspect that something is really on and steamy. But, don’t confront this with your partner, better, find a solid evidence to support your feeling.
  • Spending splurges. If suddenly, you see credit card spending on items you barely received or restaurant charges you are not aware of, this can be another signal to watch for. When your partner begins to complain or mention that he is low on cash whenever you ask for his/ her share at home, then, you are waiting for a terrible bombshell.
  • Your own private personal belongings gone missing. If your own stuffs like jewelry or when the gifts you showered your partner have been missing and when you ask your partner, he/she even blames you for your mindlessness or when he/she shows no empathy at all, I am quite confident that these gifts are either sold or being given to the new love interest.
  • Sex becomes nil or almost a drag.  When your partner seems to have lost the passion and the contact becomes ages apart, then, you are sure in for heartache.
  • Rumors start. If suddenly your friends mention that they have seen your partner with the opposite gender sharing a private meal or wandering through the parks or mall, better heed their notice and start taking actions.
  • Your faults are noticed more than often. To justify the cheating, your partner would blame your lapses. While this can’t be true to all, your partner would simply be insensitive and cared less.

The signs are to watch for but give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Remember to catch the evidence first before you interrogate as your partner would strongly deny your claim and shall become more vigilant with his/her actions.

Should you find out your partner is indeed cheating, the next thing to do is all up to you. The bottom line however is we all deserve to be treated fairly and if our partner can’t give that then personally, I believe we all need to reassess where we should stand in a relationship and decide to either hold on to it or simply let go.